All other concerns slip away, your focus is on where you are, the people you’re with, the task at hand.
You’re not distracted – you’re razor sharp, fully engaged with the people around you.
You are serene, composed and unhurried.
This is not a deep question.
We immediately know the answer.
It’s at the knee-jerk automatic level of existence.
And when we answer the question, immediately we react to that response by feeling confident because we know we are at our best – or by straightening up, focusing & engaging because we want to live life at its fullest.
In a pause we become fully alive, fully connected.
When you pause, breathe a prayer that you:
- will use open gestures that draw people nearer & not ones that are a barrier
- will have the courage to speak when you should
- will speak words that are encouraging, wise and loving
- will have the wisdom to know when to say nothing at all
It all happens in a moment of pause.
Pause in the doorway before you enter a room so you’ll be focused, know exactly where you’re going to go when you enter the room, to whom you want to speak, and exactly what you’ll say.
Pause before speaking: it makes the other person listen more intently, and gives you a few extra seconds to be sure of what you want to say so you’re poised and not emotional.
Pause before you exit a vehicle to shift your focus to where you’re going and what you’ll be doing next, to breathe a prayer for the next phase of your day. (It also gives your guy time to come and open the door for you – which he should.)
Pause before you greet a person so your focus is 100% on them – to listening to them instead than talking about yourself – and breathe a prayer that your conversation with them will be uplifting & encouraging.
I hope you find a new level of poise, focus and connection by practicing a pause.